Explaining to your friends what ulcerative colitis (UC) is, why you have it, and how it affects you can be difficult. UC can make you want to hide from everyone in the world, but that isn’t a realistic solution. At some point, you will have to open up to people about your disease. Doing so won’t be easy, but it definitely isn’t as hard as you think.
The first people you may want to inform are your closest friends. You don’t want to have to hide your disease from the people that you love and trust the most. Because they are your closest friends, they will most likely be understanding and caring about the issue. They won’t bother you about it unnecessarily, and instead they will try to keep it in mind and make sure you are feeling okay. The more open and honest you are, the more easily they will comprehend your disease and the more likely they’ll be empathetic.
In the case of telling friends that are not extremely close to you, the best course is often to tell them what you suffer from without going into too much detail. You can tell them what UC is and what the major problems are, but you don’t have to tell them everything if you are not comfortable doing so. If they ask you about your experience, be honest, but don’t feel like you have to open up completely. You should never feel obligated to tell someone about your UC if you don’t want to.
When dealing with acquaintances, you should probably be more vague and general. Acquaintances don’t really need to know much about your UC if they don’t know you that well, and you probably don’t want to tell them much. Personally, I have always preferred to use the terms “stomach thing” or “autoimmune thing” to describe it to these people. When you say something like that, people tend to understand you don’t really want to go into detail.
These tips may make explaining UC sound easy, but talking about your experiences with this disease is certainly not easy by any means. I do hope, however, that these tips can get you started on opening up to people. UC probably feels a little embarrassing to you, but others don’t tend to view it that way. They want to help and to understand you better. Most people will not judge you for having a disease you cannot control. Try your best to be honest, but if you aren’t comfortable, do not feel forced to say more than what’s necessary.